Best Personal Development Tip - Accept Only What Brings You Joy, Yet Allow All

This article is about developing the most empowering approach, which is knowing that what you can learn and grow from expands your consciousness into a remembrance of the incredible power of love that lives within self. This type of allowance creates incredible joy and fulfillment because you are okay with yourself in all choices and in all moments. 

 Being okay with yourself in all situations doesn't mean you have to like or accept what is occurring in your reality. Just be responsible that it was created exactly the way you wanted it because that is the way you have learned to give or receive your love/acceptance, worth or identity.

 The mind is a computer and will only give back information you have given it. If you have recorded painful emotions surrounding your perception of love, it is those perceptions you project on any given subject, (i.e. relationships or money) that crate your outer reality. It is those buried, suppressed emotions that surround your beliefs on receiving or giving love projected on those subjects that keep you in reactive, robot-like behavior.

 If you feel that the way you have learned to give or receive love will be taken away, it will be more painful for to receive what you say you desire, even if you are unaware of it. Therefore, you will continue to create what you perceive love to be, even if it is painful, until you are ready to be fully responsible for what you create.

Read: The Book of Joy: Lasting Happiness in a Changing World

 To change how you are experiencing life, you must change how you feel about what you are creating. To be okay with whatever was created as purposeful and good. Finding the purpose and good allows an instant acceptance of self. In time each experience will build upon itself and the acceptance you seek from others will be found within. Do not misunderstand what I am saying, this doesn't not mean complacency if you desire to continually grow. 

 Complacency is a killer to the human spirit and growth. This only means to create a space for yourself that allows self to be okay and thereby fulfilled in every given moment. What occurs within is a feeling of fulfillment; this creates a feeling of a continued abundance. In abundance there is a feeling of limitless options. One can begin to change their circumstances by creating a basic foundation of feeling abundant through taking the following steps:

 1) Cultivate within self, a desire, motivation and discipline that allows your dreams to become a reality.

 2) Be willing to put forth the effort required to have your dreams fulfilled.

 3) Have an ongoing belief in yourself no matter the perceived obstacles.

 4) Persevere throughout your journey. Know that you and only you are the creator of your reality and no one can do anything to you that you have not chosen to experience.

 As harsh as that may sound, it is a prevailing truth. 'As above, so below,' reveals a continuing ancient metaphor that tells us that whatever is on the inside of us expresses itself on the outside. If you desire long-lasting and unshakeable results to be in your life, know that this only occurs through internal changes.


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6 Ways Structure Can Help You Achieve Peak Creative Performance

As a business coach for freelancers and creative professionals, I specialize in working with people who are in a place of transition in their career or creative business. While their unique circumstances vary, more often than not they share one key challenge; they're not fulfilling their creative and commercial potential. I've come to believe that a successful creative business is a blend of four things: 

(1) a great product or service 

(2) good strategy 

(3) hard work and 

(4) a willingness to be out of our comfort zone more often that not. 

Hey, if it were easy, everyone would do it, right?

But the creative business is a unique and sensitive animal. If it's all about strategy and objectives, we lose the creative magic and if it's all about creativity, nothing gets done. So, how can we find and maintain balance?

After working with creative professionals for 15 years, being business owner myself for eight and benefiting from the wisdom of mentors and coaches, I've come to the conclusion that success comes down to one thing:

Creating a solid structure, within which there is a lot of freedom.

If you're in that place of transition and don't know how to balance structure and freedom, I'd like to share 6 strategies that have worked for me: 

1) Know what you want from your business

If we don't know where we want to go, we can't create a plan to get there. Set aside some uninterrupted time to really think about what you want from your business. When we're honest with ourselves, the answer is sometimes very different from what we think we want. For example:

- Are you starting a business and want to build a roster of ideal clients? 
- Are you happy with your business and clients, but would like a few more? 
- Do you want to build a business that is flexible enough to work around your family's schedule? 
- Do you want to be known as a thought-leader in your industry? 

You can see how the strategy would be vastly different for each of these businesses, so it's important to get clear from the outset. 

2) Write down everything you need to do to achieve your goal

Doing a brain dump is a great way to get all of your ideas out of your head and into one place. I love the mind-map method. It's simple, effective and perfect for visual types. Here's how you do it:

Take a piece of paper and put your main topic, e.g. your business name, at the center. As thoughts come to mind, draw branches from the main topic and write down that thought or objective (use as few words as possible). You can create sub-branches for additional thoughts or action steps. 

I love Goggle for creating mind maps that look pretty too! 

3) Prioritize and calendarize 

(I know it's not a word, but it should be!) 
Take your mind map and number your goals by priority. Start with number one, let's use Networking as the example, and list action steps you need to take. They night be: 

 
(a) Research BNI and visit one chapter this month  

  (b) Become a member of Freelancer's Union and attend one event this month 

   (c) Research local AIGA chapter

Now enter those action steps into your calendar. Once it's in the calendar it moves from a "should" to a done deal. Now you're free to do something else. 

4) Bundle your to-do's

Have you ever ended your day feeling exhausted and frustrated because you ran around like a headless chicken, without much to show for it? I have and it sucks.
I now bundle similar tasks together and take care of them in one sitting. I set Friday aside for book keeping and general admin. Monday is dedicated to content development and marketing and I cluster my coaching sessions on Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday so that I can stay in the zone and be as present as I can. Clustering your efforts also helps you balance "doing" and "creating". 

5) Work with your natural rhythms

It's no coincidence that my writing/content work is slated for Monday when I'm fresh and my boring admin is on Friday, when I'm spent. I go for an early morning run on one of my coaching days, knowing that I will benefit the most from the boost of energy and clarity it provides. 

6) Make time to play and create

Do you deny yourself downtime because you feel guilty that you're not being "productive?" I struggle with this and, while we may think of it as a noble trait, it's really not. The fact is, we need time to dream, play and create. It's what gives us the magic, the inspiration and energy we need to do all of the above steps. Down time should be as much of a priority as everything else. So put THAT in your calendar and stick to it!

How Do You Value Your Self-Worth?

Quanta Review - How Do You Value Your Self-Worth?

How do you value your self-worth? This is a very tough question and not so easy to understand, huh? What I mean is do you focus more on what you already have or more on what you don't have? This focus goes a long way in determining how you value your self-worth. You see, the way our mind works is we move toward what we focus on (according to the 8 rules of the subconscious mind). With one of the most important subconscious mind rules being "What's expected tends to be realized". So, I ask again, 'Do you focus on your lack or what you don't have, or more on what you do have'? So, if you focus on your lack what do you think you will create? You guessed it, more lack. What we focus on is what we create. If you focus on what you don't have, you will create more of what you don't have.

The point is, the focus on lack or what you don't have will bring you weakness and insecurity. Focusing on lack will bring you down. OK, so if you don't have what you want currently, how do you obtain millions (if that's your goal). It all starts by valuing where you are and who you are currently.


You value your situation as it exists right now, and who you are as a person right now, and moving toward what you want to have and who you want to become. The #1 secret to creating wealth (if that's your goal) is to value your self. In other words, you value your current situation, staying focused on where you want to go and placing no one above you. In your mind, you stand face to face on an equal level with everyone. You value your own life as it exists currently where you are today because you continually put forth your best. You put forth the very best you know how to do. When you value yourself and always put forth your very best your value to others increases. When your value to others increases a funny thing happens. You guessed it, as your value to others increases your income increases accordingly. When you value yourself, you create a very powerful and effective presence that is attractive to others. When this happens, other people will want to hitch their wagon to yours.



By developing and projecting an attitude of self-worth, the mind immediately eliminates any financial struggles. You see, when you focus on where you want to go, you have to let go of the lack. This is another rule of the subconscious mind which states, "The subconscious mind cannot hold two opposing thoughts at one and the same time". Take a look at all the things that make your insecure. Then simply let go of those things you cannot control, and focus on where you want to go and what you want to have.


When you feel secure and content about where you are and let go of the insecurities, you will see a shift toward what you are focused on. In other words, you will move in the direction of your focus. That is another simple a rule of the subconscious mind (we create more of what we are focused on) and has been practiced for hundreds of years by the super wealthy. In summary, learn to let go of your insecurities or what's holding you back from where you want to go and then focus on where you want to go. Amazing things will begin to happen.

Stop Letting Others Lead Your Life With These Top Leadership Tips

When trying to be a leader and learning all you can to do your best, you have to get the right kind of information to do well. The following article is filled with useful information on how to develop your leadership skills. You should have a much better idea of how to become a leader after reading the following article.

Honesty is integral to leadership. 

Work every day to build trust with your employees. While you build your skills in leadership, try to keep a precedent of trustworthiness and honesty. When people trust you, they also respect you.

Use incentives to encourage good work. People are paid salaries for performing their job duties, but incentives can play an important role too. 

When a member of your team does something exceptional, reward them with a bonus, promotion or gift. A good leader isn't a cheapskate.

Mean everything you say. Be accountable for your actions and words as a leader. You are an important piece of the business, and anything you do or say will reflect on it. If you do or say something you shouldn't have, you need to make things better. Don't wait for other people to fix the problem for you.

Find out how you can write in an effective way. 

Your personality is vital to good leadership, but there is more to it than that. It's also about the presentation of your words. Writing with bad grammar and spelling errors will make it difficult for others to look at you as a strong leader. Remember that, and take note of how and what you're writing. 

Work to build cooperation within your team. Be able to be there when people need to speak with you about a problem they may be having and be sure you answer them honestly and as best you can. You also don't want to interfere too much in your employee's daily tasks.

If employee reviews are part of your annual reports, remember that it's important to review both the positives and the negatives. 

Motivating your team is easiest when you are able to positively reinforce their better traits while giving constructive criticism as well.

A genuine business leader leads through his own actions.

Let people know what you expect from them, help them when they need it, and exhibit passion for the tasks at hand; that is great leadership. A good leader is also constantly in communication with their team.

Leader should know how to compromise. 

Read: The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You (10th Anniversary Edition) 

Compromise allows you to get what you want without tearing down what someone else wants. By having a tough position, you become a much better leader. Practice compromising with communication and recognition to increase your leadership skill.

Try becoming a real role model for the people around you. Act in a manner you want your team to emulate. Ensure that you keep your eye on your goals, strive to reach success and don't waste time on doing things that will bring you and your business down.

There are many qualities needed to be a great leader. 

Leadership cycles as everyone helps contribute great skills and necessary talents. Apply the tips you just read to start developing your leadership skills and you will soon meet your goals.

Traits Successful People Possess

Leaders achieve goals in cooperation with and through the actions of the people in their organization. Effective leaders encourage their employees' personal success because they understand that personal success translates into organizational success. They know that successful people build successful organizations.  

THREE CHARACTERISTICS OF SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE ARE:

1. Goal direction: They know where they stand, where they want to go and have a plan to get there. 

2. Self Motivation: As self starters, they wind their own clock. 

3. Positive mental attitude: Successful people look for ways to complete tasks. They focus on strengths and break self-imposed limitations created by low self esteem.

These traits are interrelated. Strengthen one and you strengthen them all. Success breeds more success through increasing momentum. 

GOAL DIRECTION: 

A much quoted study found that the three percent of the population who created a specific written plan became not only financially independent but out produced those with only general goals by 10 to 100 times.  

Goal directed action leads to success, which arrives when you make that first step towards a goal, not when you reach your goal. Every action step you take towards your goal is a success that brings you closer to the end result you want.  

You can learn the skill of goal direction. Great managers provide goal training and instill goal direction through the planning process. They ensure expected results when they hold themselves and their organization accountable. 

When employees meet their personal goals while helping the company meet its goals, they make great achievements possible. Outstanding leaders build an environment where personal and organizational goals complement each other.  

SELF-MOTIVATION 

Motivation, the sum of two words, motive and action, is the reason a person takes an action. Motivation, movement towards a goal, is goal directed action. 

In the business world, motivation often arises from fear or incentives, both of which are generated by another person and temporary in nature.  

For instance, an employee might be scared by the threat of losing a bonus. Over time people build immunity to fear in that they work just hard enough to get the job done then stop taking action. They don't grow and develop to their full potential. 

Incentives are often part of an employee's compensation plan. For example, a sales incentive plan can effectively increase sales in the short run. However, today's incentive plan often becomes tomorrow's expectation. As the reward becomes expected, the incentive must increase.  

Read:  Start with Why: How Great Leaders Inspire Everyone to Take Action

Self motivation, however, is internal, permanent and unique to each individual. We motivate ourselves. When we work and live through self-motivation, we take more control over our lives than we could ever imagine having, much like a thoroughbred horse that runs for the thrill of running. The joy and excitement of doing something we love brings great achievement and meaning to our lives.     

POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE 

Which would you rather have as an employee or co-worker, a person with a positive attitude and average skills or a person with high skills and a negative attitude? 

Effective leaders understand that attitude is everything. We heighten success when we look for ways to accomplish our goals rather than make excuses.  

Winners and losers dress alike, eat in the same restaurants, shop in the same stores and work in the same offices. Attitude, behavior and the results they achieve make the difference.  

Winners confidently expect that they can turn any situation to positive advantage. Using positive behaviors; they listen and learn. Their attitude and behavior lead to peak performance.  

The difference between the average and very successful person is quite small. Successful people don't work three times as hard. Effective managers know how to develop the slight edge in people that creates a major increase in performance. They instill an attitude of abundance and positive expectancy in their people. 

HOW TO BUILD SUCCESS TRAITS 

Successful leaders use these four action steps to build success traits in their management team: 

1. Create a positive work environment: People respond to their environment. Build an environment where people want to be and want to do their best. 

 2. Encourage people to stretch for professional development: Most people want to progress and grow. Effective leaders make a point of learning what motivates their employees and then give personal and organizational encouragement.  

 3. Strive for excellence: Help people hold themselves accountable for their personal goals. Hold them accountable for organizational goals.  

4. Share power to create personal commitment to key initiatives: An effective leader understands that sharing power is the most effective way to build personal motivation. When participants take intellectual and emotional ownership of the initiative, they become part of the solution and develop personal commitment to the outcome.  

HOW TO BUILD SELF ESTEEM 

Effective leaders understand that attitude is crucial and that self esteem, the sum of our conditioning from an early age, affects it in many ways. Leaders raise the self esteem of their employees by helping them:  

 Avoid comparison to others.  

When we compare ourselves to others we set ourselves up for disappointment. Someone always has stronger experience or is a more polished speaker. The only relevant measure of personal improvement is to compare our capabilities from yesterday to our capabilities today  

Resist putting yourself down.  

Don't let the person in the mirror become a block. Understand your starting point and set a goal to change. Once you start to actively work towards a goal, you create success not at the end point but during the game. Every day you work towards the culmination of your long range goals.

Improve a discipline in some part of your life.  

Working to fulfill your goals gives you an incentive to do more and do it better each day. When you consistently take the right actions, you feel better about yourself and regularly reach a higher plateau. 

Celebrate small victories. 

Recognize that each step you complete towards your goals is a positive accomplishment that takes you closer to your final objective. You raise your effectiveness every day. 

SUMMARY

The difference between being average and successful is small. A successful person doesn't work harder, he or she works with a distinct goal in mind. For this reason effective leaders strive to strengthen success traits in themselves and their employees. 

Personal and organizational successes go together. When employees meet their personal goals as they help the organization meet its goals, they make great achievements possible.Build an environment where personal and organizational goals complement each other.  

Successful leaders build an organization of committed people who together accomplish great feats. 

They believe in the adage:  

"Self motivation is the power that raises you to any level you seek"